Supporting Someone Going Through Abuse

Having non-judgmental support is vital for the healing process of a survivor of trauma, regardless of the type of trauma (domestic violence, sexual assault, childhood sexual abuse and/ or human trafficking). Your role is an important one!

It can be difficult to hear that someone you care about has survived an act of violence. There is not a perfect response, but here are some helpful tips:

• Listen.
• Be patient.
• Don’t judge or blame them.
• Use survivor affirming language, such as: “I believe you,” and “this doesn’t change how I feel about you” and/or or “this isn’t your fault.” (https://www.rainn.org/articles/how-respond-survivor).
• If the survivor is ready to report, ask how you can support them. Find information here about steps on reporting (add hyperlink to What To Expect When An Assault is Reported).
• Be supportive especially when the survivor chooses not to report.
• Encourage survivors to seek out support such counseling; remember only they can seek services for themselves in their own time.
• Help them find resources; our helpline can be a good place to start (443-279-0379).
• Check in with them periodically; don’t avoid talking about the abuse.
• Understand that most victims of domestic violence do not leave quickly, and many don’t leave at all. Do not judge or cut your loved one off; this is what her/his abusive partner often wants (isolation). Offer to be there when needed.
• For information on power and control tactics used check out our virtual learning center.