TurnAround is the rape crisis center for Baltimore City and County.

After hours Crisis line: 443-279-0379

Supporting Someone
Going Through Abuse

What to Do if Someone Discloses to You

Having non-judgmental support is vital for the healing process of a survivor of trauma,
regardless of the type of trauma (domestic violence, sexual assault, childhood sexual abuse and/ or human trafficking). Your role is an important one!
It can be difficult to hear that someone you care about has survived an act of violence. There is not a perfect response, but here are some helpful tips:
  • Listen.
  • Be patient.
  • Don’t judge or blame them.
  • Use survivor affirming language, such as: “I believe you,” and “this doesn’t change how I feel about you” and/or or “this isn’t your fault.” (https://www.rainn.org/articles/how-respond-survivor).
  • If the survivor is ready to report, ask how you can support them. Find information here about steps on reporting (What To Expect When An Assault is Reported).
  • Be supportive especially when the survivor chooses not to report.
  • Encourage survivors to seek out support such counseling; remember only they can seek services for themselves in their own time.
  • Help them find resources; our helpline can be a good place to start (443-279-0379).
  • Check in with them periodically; don’t avoid talking about the abuse.
  • Understand that most victims of domestic violence do not leave quickly, and many don’t leave at all. Do not judge or cut your loved one off; this
  • is what her/his abusive partner often wants (isolation). Offer to be there when needed.
  • For information on power and control tactics used please click here.

For Appointments

Call Us: 410-377-8111

Any Questions?

Email Us: info@turnaroundinc.org